Why Do We Keep Attracting the Same Relationships?

They say, "we attract what we are", ‘birds of a feather flock together” and “like attracts like”. Whichever way you choose to say it, the meaning is pretty much the same. We are often a magnet for others who reflect what we feel inside. Have you ever wondered why you end up in the same type of relationships or friendships each time you meet someone new?

If you keep attracting the same "type" of person, what is it about you that makes this so?

It’s time to evaluate yourself, your choices, and your character to understand why you attract and are attracted to similar people time and time again. And as much as we would like to believe that Mr. or Ms. Wrong keeps finding us, it’s really US finding them!

Contrary to what we might believe, we didn’t cross paths with the people that we have met up until now, by chance. We have been attracting them to us for one reason or another. Let’s take a look at why you have been continually attracting the same people into your life.

Let’s start with friendships first. If you have been making friends with confident, successful, kind people, then that is what you have been reflecting out to the world yourself. On the other hand, if the people around you are struggling and living unfulfilled lives, more than likely you are vibrating on that level yourself and attracting similar energy and similar people to you.

In romantic relationships, do you have difficulty with true intimacy or commitment? If so, have you noticed that the men or women you attract also have difficulty with the same? We all embody character traits; some are positive and some not so much. Ask yourself the following: “What are my character flaws? And “Are my personal character flaws mirrored in the people I attract?”

Once you begin to understand your own character better, you will be able to identify those traits in others sooner.

The next step is to imagine what your perfect group of friends or romantic partner would be like. Imagine the kinds of things that they like and do. Imagine spending time with this person/these friends and having a great time.

Once you have identified some common traits, write them down.
 Review your list and make sure that you have included all of the individual traits that a good friend or love interest would embody.
 Spend time looking over your list everyday. Rewrite these traits on regular basis and make effort to embody those traits in yourself.

Now look at the people who are closest to you. These are the people you spend the most time with. Do they embody the traits you are looking for in your friendships or relationships?

Remember, if “like attracts like” then it’s best to work towards developing the very traits in yourself, that you like in others. Beware; if you continually focus on the bad things that are present in your life, or you continue to ignore the character flaws, you will continue to attract more of the same type of people into your life.