How To Deal With Ghosters And Wishy-washy People

The short answer: They're not worth keeping around.

I came across a news article with the title,

“The strange new trend that’s enraging hiring managers.”

But when I read it, it’s actually not a strange trend at all.

Employers are having more experiences of job seekers ghosting them.

Not only do they show up to their interviews, but there are also people who accept an offer and then disappear, or even show up on their first or second day, then disappear.

It seems people’s maturity level has really stooped down nowadays.

When I read this, the petty side of me wanted to say,

“Good! Now you know how job seekers feel when they get ghosted. It’s about time you get a taste of your own medicine.”

But then the HR side of me (I used to do HR work for a previous internship role) understands the frustration. I’ve interviewed candidates who showed so much excitement for the position they were interviewing for. A few days later, I couldn't get in touch with them at all.

And this isn’t just a problem in the job market.

People get ghosted by their dates.

People get ghosted by people they meet at professional networking events. It personally happened to me once.

I remember I met this one guy and we talked about potentially working together. We connected on Linkedin, I messaged him once, no response. Sent a follow-up message, no response.

Oh well. Delete connection.

The way I see it, ghosters don’t have the maturity and the guts to have uncomfortable confrontations with others.

If those hiring managers ever asked me for advice (For whatever reason), I’d simply tell them it’s for the best. They probably wouldn’t be good communicators on the job anyways.

It’s just not worth chasing after or keeping them around.

Same goes for people who give me wishy-washy replies.

Though the following responses are appropriate in certain situations, I just shake my head when people answer my questions with…

“Mmm...maybe,” or

“I’ll think about it.”

Please, do me, and yourself, a favor and just tell me “no.”

I can’t tell you how many times I came across this with potential clients.

It is what it is, but I always tell myself that the universe didn’t want me associated with those people for a reason and then move on.

But onto the usual business.

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