10 Signs Of A Relationship That Just Isn’t Right
10 signs which tell that it's time to rework on your relationship and even put an end if the limits are crossed.
10 signs of a Relationship that Just isn't Right:- Are you ignoring certain toxic traits in your partner and are compromising a lot. Inspite of enough red alerts are you forcing yourself to love someone? Or are you someone completely naive about toxicity and thus unduly allowing that unhealthy relationship to stretch. Then continue reading this article to know the 10 signs of a relationship that just isn’t right which you should not ignore.
Maybe you’ve been dating for so long that your relationship is comfortable, and you feel perfectly fine. A nagging feeling creeps in the back of your mind: Are they really “the one” or am I wasting my time trying to force a relationship? The truth is that when you know, you know, but when you’re not sure, you know too; it’s just harder to admit because what you know in that case leads to a breakup.
So, here we are suggesting you 10 pointers which tell you that it's time to rework on your relationship and even put an end if the limits are crossed.
1. Apology made yet the mistakes continue
To commit mistakes is human. However to commit the same mistakes again and again is a sign that your partner is not taking you seriously or is deliberately trying to hurt you. This is one of the signs of an unhealthy relationship you should not ignore.
As long as you don’t make it again, a mistake can be a huge learning experience and opportunity for strengthening the relationship. Mistakes committed over and over again result in bad dating cycles and an inability to achieve our happiest possible relationship.
2. Lack of trust and respect
Do you lack trust in your partner? Or is your partner indulging in over spying your life's affairs. Then you must be alert. If love is what makes a relationship exciting, trust is what keeps it going strong. When there is trust, peace prevails in the relationship. But if the partners do not trust each other enough, they spend their whole life doubting the other’s every action.
No one deserves a love that needs them to keep checks or constantly worry about what the partner might be doing behind their back. Lack of trust suggest lack of respect too. To be aware about day to day activities of one's partner out of genuine care and concern is fine. When it crosses boundary then it's an issue which you should not ignore.
3. Love's another name is respect
One of the essential components of love is respect. Without respect there can be no love. Is your partner claiming that he/she loves you and the respect element is missing then it's time for you to understand that all the claims are a facade only and it's time to rethink about the relationship.
4. Mental abuse
We often think of abuse as physical. We picture scars, and other marks delivered at the hand of an abuser. But while physical abuse is all too common — 1 in 3 women and 1 in 4 men have been physically abused by a partner — maltreatment doesn’t always require direct contact. Unfortunately, women and men may also be subject to abuse inflicted through emotional and psychological means.
Mental abuse can be severe. However, because this maltreatment can take on different patterns, it can also be easy to dismiss or overlook. The individual on the receiving end ignores it. Mental abuse is the use of threats, verbal insults, and other more subtle tactics to dominate a person’s way of thinking. This form of abuse is especially disturbing because it is planned to destroy self-esteem and confidence and undermine a personal sense of reality or competence.
Mental abuse relies on tactics that ridicule, insult, frighten or exploit.
5. Physical abuse
Many tolerate physical abuse from their partner in the mistaken belief and hope that all this will end or they lose hope that nothing can be done about it. All women subject to physical abuse out there here's an assurance for you that the country's law is with you. Exploitation of the other is a punishable offence and is a high alert for the suffering partners to consider ending the relationship.
6. Unfulfilled promises
Is your partner someone who makes abundant promises and never fulfills them? Is this trait no more a one time lapse on his/her part and is entering in her/his usual habit? Then it's time for you to talk about it with your partner and resolve it. Breaking promises in a relationship can negatively impact this trust, which can sometimes damage the relationship for good, especially when done often enough.
However, it's not always about something lacking in the person. May be your partner is stuck in head owing to work commitments or any other worry is occupying him/her. Talk a way out of it. Maybe this is all you need. While breaking a promise doesn’t signify the end of your relationship, you and your partner will need to take steps to ensure that it’s not damaged beyond repair when it happens.
7. Over interference
Does your partner appear a spy to you and no more a romantic interest. Does he or she want to keep you under their nose all the time? Is he or she monitoring you highly? Then this is definitely a sign of toxicity in a relationship. To tackle this, determine what you want out of a relationship and set boundaries accordingly because no one deserves a love that needs them to keep tabs or constantly worry about what the partner might be doing behind their back.
8. Conditional Love
Are conditions rampant in your relationship? Is your loving relationship revolving around conditions? What do we mean by this?
If you act a certain way only then you are loved otherwise not, does it feel relatable? Do you feel loved if you behave in a certain way then it's a pointer maybe it is not true love. Of course you should both serve each other, take care of each other's happiness by behaving in a certain way. But is this trait of yours going too far? In case assert yourself on certain occasions and are denied acceptance, love and respect then this situation demands you to reconsider your relationship.
9. Over possessiveness
When this sense of belonging is balanced with independence and individuality, we are able to build a healthy, lasting relationship. However, when this possessiveness is rooted in fear, insecurity and jealousy it can quickly turn into a toxic relationship where you feel controlled, suffocated and even abused. A red alert!
10. Winning Argument seems more important than resolution
Is your partner interested in winning arguments? Fighting to win an argument can foster resentment or even toxicity in a relationship. The aim should be to understand your loved one’s point of view, not to “win” an argument. Instead of proving a point, ask questions to better understand your partner’s point of view.
Don’t think of the disagreement as them versus you; think of it as you two against the problem. If your partner shows no understanding of this and is always willing to prove that you are wrong then this is another red flag in your relationship.
People go into relationships for different reasons. While some people see it as a form of security, others regard their relationship as a means to an end. Another group of people views relationships as something that complement their lives.
Meanwhile, some people go into a relationship to have someone to love and care for while hoping they reciprocate. Whichever your reasons are, being in a relationship is great. It helps us strengthen our bonds and have someone to talk to when the world seems to be against us.
Make sure that your relationship is healthy and does not verge on toxicity which will do more harm than nourish your life. For better understanding, read our article and go for a fulfilling life.
